The Trustworthiness of Male Anger
My experience across all the men I’ve worked with, with few to no exceptions, is that they have, or have had, serious problems recognizing/dealing productively with their anger. A man who doesn’t realize he’s angry, or who has never
I’m Not a F***ing Coach!
Here's the deal... I've spent the past 4 years devoted to a life where I've called myself a coach, studied and practiced the art of coaching, studied and practice the art of selling myself as a coach, spent a
Ever Feel Like You’re Not Successful Enough?
3 years ago today I left Olympia, WA, the home I’d built for myself for 12 years, to create a new life for myself. 3 years deep into this new life and career path and
Why Your Sex Life is Just the Canary in the Coal Mine
So many men focus on the state of their sex lives as a pain point, but what many of us don't get is that the quality of our sex is just an indicator for something deeper. Although the physical act of
When Tragedy Strikes
What do you say to someone when they've experienced a tragedy? Have you ever felt unsure what to say? Have you ever let that stop you from reaching out to them? My sister's best friend's brother killed himself just
Taking a Stand Against Sexism
What does it mean to take a stand against sexism when doing so could get me hurt or killed? I'd made eye contact with the two women sitting just down the metro from me. My seat was at the
What It Means to Be an Artist
My art used to be tangible.A recorded piece of music that you could hold in your hand and listen to when you chose. A song that I wrote on my guitar and could record or play for you. My
A (White) Middle Class Man and a (Black) Homeless Man Walk Into a Burger Joint Together…
Last night as I was walking downtown a homeless person asked me to buy him a burger. I instinctively said yes, and asked him what kind he wanted. He said cheeseburger. With fries. So I went in and ordered
What I Learned From Having Authentic Money Conversations with 50 Different People
Recently I was challenged to have 50 separate conversations about money with people in my community. I took up the challenge, and within a couple months I'd had an incredible variety of conversations and experiences with people... all centered around