“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

– Rumi

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

-Rumi

DEEP COACHING

Many coaches believe that transformation happens in the thinking mind.

I believe differently.

Your body holds wisdom far beyond what the rational mind is capable of. When you reconnect with this wisdom you become fully available to the connection, passion, and freedom you truly desire.

This deeper truth can’t be directly sought. Striving or grasping for it only drives it farther away. It is accessed instead by seeking and shedding the barriers you’ve built up inside yourself against it. By courageously facing and transmuting your darkness into light.

This work requires readiness and courage. It is not for everybody. It is confronting, but it is also potent. It is for men and women who are ready to live from their deepest truth.

My best work happens often (but not always) with:

A. ACHIEVERS WHO CREATE STRONG RESULTS IN THEIR LIVES, but for whom the striving and grinding have become unsustainable, leading to burnout, fatigue, or loss of joy. Once you ditch your addiction to struggle and start “paddling with the current” you’ll create bigger results with less effort. In all areas of life.

B. MEN AND WOMEN IN COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP. This work is with one or both partners who are ready to move past codependence and built up resentment. You’re ready to redefine yourselves and come together as sovereign individuals. This is the foundation for deeper synergy, joy, and sexual spark. It often involves redefining what relationship is “supposed” to look like and creating something totally authentic to YOU.

CASE STUDIES

Jessica was exhausted…

On paper she was successful, but on the inside she felt stressed out, anxious, and resentful.

Her business was earning a healthy 1/4 million dollars, but the energy it took to sustain it all was taking a toll. She was paying a whole team of consultants, assistants, and coaches, so she ended up seeing only a portion of what the business actually earned.

The strategies she believed she needed to grow her business were sucking the life out of her. Copywriting, sales funnels, and Facebook ads had created some measure of success in her business, but at what cost?

READ JESSICA’S FULL CASE STUDY HERE

Eugene was a people pleaser…

He’s a high achiever, motivated to excel at work, well-rewarded for his work ethic, and well-liked for his positive energy.

But beneath the surface Eugene struggled with a constant discomfort in his own skin, as well as a deep martyr complex – believing that he needed to put everyone else’s needs ahead of his, a textbook “Nice Guy”. This was particularly the case with his wife, where he found himself in a loving, but codependent relationship.

READ EUGENE’S FULL CASE STUDY HERE

CASE STUDIES

Jessica was exhausted…

On paper she was successful, but on the inside she felt stressed out, anxious, and resentful.

Her business was earning a healthy 1/4 million dollars, but the energy it took to sustain it all was taking a toll. She was paying a whole team of consultants, assistants, and coaches, so she ended up seeing only a portion of what the business actually earned.

The strategies she believed she needed to grow her business were sucking the life out of her. Copywriting, sales funnels, and Facebook ads had created some measure of success in her business, but at what cost?

READ JESSICA’S FULL CASE STUDY HERE

Eugene was a people pleaser…

He’s a high achiever, motivated to excel at work, well-rewarded for his work ethic, and well-liked for his positive energy.

But beneath the surface Eugene struggled with a constant discomfort in his own skin, as well as a deep martyr complex – believing that he needed to put everyone else’s needs ahead of his, a textbook “Nice Guy”. This was particularly the case with his wife, where he found himself in a loving, but codependent relationship.

READ EUGENE’S FULL CASE STUDY HERE

HOW DOES “THE WORK” WORK?

Working with me might best be described as a blend between traditional coaching methodologies and deep somatic healing. It requires a willingness to stop avoiding or numbing out your feelings. It requires a readiness to slow down and face the fear, wounding, and traumas head-on.

Your emotions are not meant to be stuffed down or avoided. They are signals from your body that have crucial guidance within them. When courageously confronted in a safe, supportive healing environment they can be transmuted into something beautiful: connection, passion, joy, and a deep sense of ease in the world.

WHAT IS THE INVESTMENT?

Much of my time is spent free of charge with men and women in one and sometimes two-off life changing conversations. They are pro-bono and cost only the time we spend together. Through the course of these initial conversations some of these people realize that more committed investment will yield exponential returns… they know their lives will never be the same.

Together with my clients we co-create not just a working relationship, but a sacred space for healing and transformation. Depending on the program the time investment ranges from a single day to a full year. The financial investment ranges from the mid-4 figures to $30,000. The emotional investment is a commitment to deep inner exploration and full-self ownership. The energetic investment is consistent, truth-aligned action in every area of your life.

My work with clients is ROI driven – whether quantifiable or experiential. Past clients have multiplied their revenue (with more ease), re-ignited the passion in their relationships, reclaimed their full aliveness, and found deeper levels of inner peace.

PRAISE

Your coaching is Jedi-like.

The way you go about things is subtle.

It’s the difference between a martial artist who’s way is to use a lot of energy and force, they're very rigid and very raw. But when you watch a master, a 10th degree black belt, every movement follows the law of least effort. It looks subtle and effortless but the results are extremely powerful.

Rasul A. Davis – The Total Wellness Guy
Ali
I was making great money but afraid of creating a life based upon my passion.

It was like wearing golden handcuffs. I felt weighed down by a sense of responsibility and obligation. But me being tough, I carried a bravado that only ended up repressing my anxiety, so I was unable to let myself just be in flow.

Sessions with you are never comfortable! It's like surgery – unearthing the stuff that I'm not even aware of, but through finding the blocks I opened up to a lot more flow and presence. Now I'm back to making nearly the same amount AND my life is so much fuller and more fulfilling!

Galen Erickson – Digital Marketing Director
Jess
Coaching with you is awful – I hate working with you!

Why? Because it’s the most confronting work I’ve ever done in my life.

I’ve worked with lots of coaches and healers… There are very few people I’ve worked with that I feel like see me in such a deep way that I can’t escape from. Whatever mask I would typically wear with anybody else is just useless.

This has been the most healing work that I’ve ever done. The biggest thing that’s come from our work so far has been the reclamation of my voice and my power. I'm speaking up in situations that I never would have before, and attracting opportunities that I wouldn't have gotten before – because I'm speaking from such a fearless place... and still I feel like it’s just scratching the surface.

Jessica Geist – Entrepreneur
Katya
When I would get into conversations with my former business coaches I knew exactly what was going to happen.

I could easily come up with excuses and weave my way through the session so that I didn’t have to actually make any change.

With you I can’t hide. I can’t come up with excuses or play my way around the topic. I get on a call with you and something will come up and I’m like “Whoa. Wow. He just said that.” And it’s always so right.

Nobody else has ever said some of the things you've said to me. I don't think anyone else ever would either, and that’s a good thing. It's a sign that you really care about me.

You constantly surprise me. I don’t know what to expect when I enter a conversation with you.

Katya Sarmiento
will
My business has tripled over the past few months!
Will Schneider – New York's Premier Private and Corporate Yoga Provider
Ali
You’re like a white Mr. Miyagi.

[Our second session] was one of the most important conversations I have had in my life.

I am very grateful for the presence and space you gave me to feel and grow. The work you're doing is important and amazing. I know it's just the beginning for me and I have a ways to go but I am very much looking forward to this process and the rest of this coaching relationship with you. Thank you.

Ali Amin – Restaurant Owner
MJ
You are changing my life.

I'm learning about the power, beauty and reality of my own yearning to be met in every inch I have denied in me and about the power of being met there with presence and essence.

You are a guardian of the hearts of women and a blueprint holder of masculine wholeness in vulnerability, strength, and integrity.

Mariajose Alcázar – Associate Director at Earth Care
Nabill Idrisi
Your clear vision helped save my client relationship!

I had the calls [that we had discussed] today, and they broke new ground for me. Telling my client the honest truth was one of the hardest things I did in the past few weeks, but it led to a deeper place in our conversation and relationship.

I have to thank you for your resources and you yourself as a resource. Your clear vision of the honest conversation I had to have helped save my client relationship!

Nabill Idrisi – Productivity & Wellness Coach
LauraJeremyEloise
You model what you encourage your clients to practice.

I watched your video with our daughter, and took the opportunity to explain to her the importance of super open transparent communication. It's cool to be able to tell her that her dad and I are working with people who practice what they preach so vulnerably and openly.

Thanks for being so committed to your work and your love to cause that ripple effect to our 8 week old daughter.

Laura and Jeremy
Jim
I’ve lost the feelings of inadequacy and fear.

All because I allowed myself to be vulnerable. I knew when I was over my head and when to seek help. I have restored confidence in my personal power and handle all situations with confidence. Even my co-workers have commented on how much more self aware and secure I seem.

Jim F. – Manager
Vincent
I've taken massive action in my life and feel on my path.

I feel powerful. I greatly believe that I can overcome my relationship challenges. I have also reached out to multiple people who are struggling with porn addictions to help them, and have booked my first speech on the effects of porn for 400 students at a high school in Belgium.

I want to thank you for taking such a courageous and loving lead in the area of relationships. You have cast a light on what is possible for me.

Vincent v.A.
I feel the best I’ve ever felt.

I’ve never had someone really, really dedicate their full awareness in the way you do. You’re not giving me advice. You create space and it forces me to find the truest answer deep within myself.

What my life would be like if we weren’t working together? I don’t even want to imagine that scenario. My world has blossomed, there have been so many new doors opened in the last few months. It’s brought me out of my shell and opened me to re-finding myself.

You’ve helped me see that in pushing through fear there’s always something better on the other side, to not ever let that feeling hold me back from allowing new possibilities into my life.

I’m so grateful to have found you. I feel extremely blessed to be working with you.

Josh McMurtrie – The North County Photography Guy
I see you as a really powerful person.

You have an immense capacity to feel. Whether that’s to feel what’s going on inside yourself, to feel into someone else, or to encourage someone else to feel, I respect that aspect of your work and how you continually show up in the world this way.

How we feel in our bodies is how we relate to the world. You help people experience what it is like to use their bodies and intuition as their ultimate barometer in life.

Sam Hershberger
Nate
I don’t have to fall on my sword like I thought I had to.

I thought my dream AND I had to be sacrificed in order to maintain any semblance of integrity.

You’ve helped me realize that 1. The stories I tell myself about whether or how it will work are often completely unfounded and 2. The best thing I can do is just take action. The only reason I am where I am with Unbox Love is because I’ve taken action.

Whenever we speak you pull me out of my head and back into reality where I’m able to experience control, calm, peace, and reassurance that I have control over my life, that I’m capable of great things.

Nate Bagley – Founder of Unbox Love
ATTENTION ALL MEN!

Here's my greatest desire: That all men will speak with my colleague, Robert, and then Robert passes my phone number on to the single men once they are finished working with him...

Mandy Weinberger – Registered Holistic Nutritionist and Transformational Health Coach
What makes you so powerful

is that you’re willing to go there yourself, in your own life. You can only take clients as deep as you have gone. You model that which you expect from the world around you.

We're only as sick as our darkest secret. We'll always be running and reacting until we really face our fears.

Your magic for coaching is that you give people full permission to really look at those dark places. You’re really listening to what’s behind the words. You have the courage to go with people into the places that will give them the true freedom they’re seeking.

Julie Blake