Robert Raphael Schwenkler

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Grief Is the Out-Breath of the Feeling-Body

Written by on May 13, 2018

Our capacity to cry and grieve is one of the most important abilities we have. Without it we might eat food but never be truly nourished. Without it we might sleep but never feel truly rested. Without it we might

The World Needs Your Anger!

Written by on January 23, 2018

The world around you is starving for your anger. Not your closed hearted anger, the kind you use to dump the pain you aren’t willing to feel yourself onto the people around you, but your TRUTH. The part of you

Emotion = Motion

Written by on January 15, 2018

Did you realize that 6/7ths of the word ‘emotion’ is made up of ‘motion’? No thing in nature is static, the notion of it DEFIES THE VERY ESSENCE OF CREATION. This is where we suffer. When we resist and suppress

The Truth of God

Written by on April 10, 2017

Hell is not some abstract place under the ground that we get sent to when we’re bad. Hell is alive and well here on earth, in the hearts and minds of men and women all across the world. You included.

When Tragedy Strikes

Written by on January 7, 2017

What do you say to someone when they’ve experienced a tragedy? Have you ever felt unsure what to say? Have you ever let that stop you from reaching out to them? My sister’s best friend’s brother killed himself just a

How I Discovered My Purpose

Written by on August 2, 2016

Advisory: This article gets real in its description of my experience of death and suicide. If you’d rather not go there today you might be better off with something different. ____________ This might surprise a lot of people to hear, but for most of

Why I Chose to Support a Man Accused of Sexual Harassment

Written by on February 4, 2016

I ran across a story in the media recently, about a man who’s been accused by a number of women in his industry for sexually harassing them. Within a few days he’d resigned as president of the company, the company dissolved, and

When Yes Doesn’t Actually Mean Yes

Written by on October 5, 2014

I’ve started thanking people when they say “no” to me. Potential clients, friends, people I’d like to interview for www.reclaimingmalerolemodels.com, people who’s houses I’ve asked to stay at… It feels really good to me. No is an extremely powerful stance

I am the Schoolyard Killer

Written by on June 9, 2014

Isla Vista, Seattle Pacific University, Columbine, Virginia Tech, Sandy Hook, University of Texas…… I know these killers, these men, intimately. This will probably be surprising to anyone who knows me. I doubt that anybody has looked into my eyes and truly

How to Become a Leader

Written by on April 24, 2014

Something really important changed for me last night. My body released something that’s been with me for a long, long time. It feels like it’s been with me since I was just a couple months old. I’m so thankful for