Robert Raphael Schwenkler

Giving the Shoes Off Our Feet

Written by on September 12, 2014

I carried my $1500 laptop in its case as I walked toward the dinner place in Salt Lake last night. I felt a little bit safer about bringing it with me than I did leaving it in the car at

Shame, Sex, and Suicide: My Path to Open-Heartedness

Written by on August 14, 2014

[Originally published on The Huffington Post] At one point in my life I was nearly a dead man. Not by someone else’s hand, but by my own. It was practically an accident that I survived my second year of college,

I am the Schoolyard Killer

Written by on June 9, 2014

Isla Vista, Seattle Pacific University, Columbine, Virginia Tech, Sandy Hook, University of Texas…… I know these killers, these men, intimately. This will probably be surprising to anyone who knows me. I doubt that anybody has looked into my eyes and truly

The Conference for Men ruined my life – Here’s how

Written by on May 2, 2014

My life will never be the same. All thanks to Mike Hrostoski. When I bought my ticket for The Conference for Men I sort of had an idea that this might sort of happen. But I sort of didn’t expect

How to Become a Leader

Written by on April 24, 2014

Something really important changed for me last night. My body released something that’s been with me for a long, long time. It feels like it’s been with me since I was just a couple months old. I’m so thankful for

I’m Selfish…

Written by on March 23, 2014

I want something from you and I’m doing my best to get it from you. Yes, you. Reading this blog post. I worked to get you to this website. I’m selfish and that’s the reason you’re here.   Guess what

Someday Those We Love Will Die so Let’s Just Love

Written by on March 21, 2014

I’m in a hospital right now. Hospitals are places I’m not used to. Door after door with curtains drawn in front of them. Inside each is someone’s son or daughter. Many of them are also someone’s father or mother. I’m

What Does Your Heart Say?

Written by on March 7, 2014

Emotional fluency. Men aren’t taught it, exactly. We’re taught a lot of things, but noticing what sensations are happening in, say, our chest is not one of them. We’re not taught to pay attention to whether it feels open or

Men Cry

Written by on March 3, 2014

I talked to a counselor this week and he told me that 80% of his male clients cry at some point during their time together. When he asks them when the last time they cried was he said that 80%

Maybe Will Kill You

Written by on February 26, 2014

Being with her has been amazing. It’s the way I’ve felt connected on a deeper level than I ever have before. Those moments where my entire body was overcome by warmth and grew so full that I could feel the