Robert Raphael Schwenkler

Robert Schwenkler

A (White) Middle Class Man and a (Black) Homeless Man Walk Into a Burger Joint Together…

Written by on November 16, 2016

Last night as I was walking downtown a homeless person asked me to buy him a burger. I instinctively said yes, and asked him what kind he wanted. He said cheeseburger. With fries. So I went in and ordered it,

What I Learned From Having Authentic Money Conversations with 50 Different People

Written by on September 26, 2016

Recently I was challenged to have 50 separate conversations about money with people in my community. I took up the challenge, and within a couple months I’d had an incredible variety of conversations and experiences with people… all centered around

How I Discovered My Purpose

Written by on August 2, 2016

Advisory: This article gets real in its description of my experience of death and suicide. If you’d rather not go there today you might be better off with something different. ____________ This might surprise a lot of people to hear, but for most of

I’m the Oldest of 4 Children… Not 3

Written by on May 29, 2016

It took me 33 years to be able to speak the words. The first couple times I spoke them I could barely get them out of my mouth: I’m the oldest of 4 children… not 3. And though I was only

Be So Good They Can’t Ignore You…

Written by on February 11, 2016

Steve Martin once shared his “secret” to his success: What I always tell them, and nobody ever takes note of it because it’s not the answer they wanted to hear… What I always say is “Be so good they can’t

Why I Chose to Support a Man Accused of Sexual Harassment

Written by on February 4, 2016

I ran across a story in the media recently, about a man who’s been accused by a number of women in his industry for sexually harassing them. Within a few days he’d resigned as president of the company, the company dissolved, and

How to be a Trustworthy Man

Written by on August 5, 2015

You’re not trustworthy. Acknowledge this and you’ll be set free. How many times in your life have you said you’d do something and then didn’t? I’m not just talking about the things you told someone else you would do for them.

An Open Letter to the Total Stranger I Gave a $100 Bill to Last Weekend

Written by on May 23, 2015

Dear woman who I gave a $100 bill to last weekend, It took me five minutes to get the nerve up to approach you. I felt so vulnerable in that moment, for some reason. I told you that I’d been

Goodbye. Hello.

Written by on February 8, 2015

Tonight’s a good night to release. A decade and change ago I was a living dead person, a hollow shell of a man. In a letter my friend wrote me nearly 13 years ago tonight: “I am scared you will

When Yes Doesn’t Actually Mean Yes

Written by on October 5, 2014

I’ve started thanking people when they say “no” to me. Potential clients, friends, people I’d like to interview for www.reclaimingmalerolemodels.com, people who’s houses I’ve asked to stay at… It feels really good to me. No is an extremely powerful stance